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1. Your best friend calls you on Saturday morning and asks if she can come over to pick up yesterday’s American history work sheets. You
a. fix a bowl of cereal and settle down in front of the television to wait. She’s seen you in pajamas before.
b. jump in the shower, throw on your cutest outfit and quickly put on your makeup.
c. wash your face, brush your teeth and throw on a T- shirt and jeans.

el camino 2. Your dad picks you up from school driving his brown El Camino. The oldies station is blaring through the rolled-down windows. You
a. wish you could crawl under a rock. You’re humiliated!
b. sigh, turn to your friend and say, “Is your dad as weird as my dad?”
c. don’t really care. A car is a car.

3. Your crush finally comes around. He admits that he likes you. The only reason he gives is because he thinks you’re cute. Are you happy?
a. No, you’re offended that being cute is the only reason he gave for liking you. In fact, you completely dismiss him as a possibility. You thought he was better than that.
b. Happy? Elated is more like it. All those extra hours spent on lip gloss during lunch hour paid off — not to mention your fetching finds at the mall last weekend.
c. Well, yes, but you’re also slightly confused. He didn’t say a thing about your sense of humor or your braininess. But cute is definitely a confidence booster.

4. You woke up late this morning and only have 15 minutes before you leave for school. You
a. do your daily portion for the “Read Through the Bible With Brio” plan, brush your teeth, throw your hair back in a pony tail and grab an apple before meeting your carpool.
b. spend 10 minutes looking for an accessory to go with your retro-80s skirt. Apply foundation followed by coordinating eye shadow, eyeliner and lip gloss. Grab two pairs of shoes (you’ll choose a pair in the car) and run out to meet your older brother who is waiting.
c. say a quick prayer in the shower apologizing to God for not spending more time with Him, throw on a comfy pair of jeans and a cute sweater, and apply your lip gloss on the way to catch the bus.

5. Your younger brother started his first year of middle school. You’re in eighth grade and have waited for the day when you’d rule the school. You
a. pretend you don’t know him when he asks you for directions to his physical science class.
b. give him the big sister talk and promise to eat lunch with him on his first day.
c. don’t completely ignore him but steer your friends away from his lunch table.

6. Do you and your friends dress alike?
a. Of course! Best friends like the same things, right?
b. No. You have fashion buddies, band friends, student council friends and sports friends. They all look different.
c. Not sure. A shopping trip is the last thing you’d do with your friends.

7. Your sister likes wearing toe socks with her flip-flops. She’s been bugging you for a while about having a sister night and wants you to take her out for dinner. What do you do?
a. You agree if she’ll leave the socks at home.
b. You don’t even think about the socks. She’s your one-of-a-kind sister, and of course you’ll take her to dinner.
c. You ask if the two of you can make cookies at home. After all, her entire wardrobe is filled with fashion faux pas and is not appropriate for a public appearance.

8. The homecoming dance is approaching and with that comes the pressure to have a date — the right date. How do you find a date?
a. You drop hints to your best guy friend. You’re just friends. He doesn’t rate too high on the cool scale, but you just want to have fun. Maybe you can get a group to go.
b. Turn on the flirting and become friends with the quarterback of the football team.
c. If someone asks you, you’ll go, but if not, you’ll just go to the game. You’d rather watch the game pressure- free with your closest friends anyway.

9. Would you ever consider cosmetic surgery?
a. Definitely. You’ve always thought your nose was crooked, and if you were old enough, you’d apply for the reality TV show Extreme Makeover.
b. Nope. There are better ways to spend money.
c. Probably not. Even if you do wish you could change some things, whitening your teeth is probably as far as you’d go.

eating with friends10. When you’re out eating with your guy friends you
a. eat less. You don’t want to look like a pig.
b. eat until you’re full. Who really cares what they think?
c. barely eat. They like cleaning your plate.

Scoring
Give your answers the corresponding numeral and add them together for your total score.

1. a = 1, b = 3, c = 2
2. a = 3, b = 2, c = 1
3. a = 1, b = 3, c = 2
4. a = 1, b = 3, c = 2
5. a = 3, b = 1, c = 2
6. a = 3, b = 2, c = 1
7. a = 2, b = 1, c = 3
8. a = 2, b = 3, c = 1
9. a = 3, b = 1, c = 2
10. a = 2, b = 1, c = 3

Image-conscious Isabelle (25 to 30 points)
You seem to be quite caught up in appearances. Though everyone else may be concerned with her date for the homecoming dance, the truth is it won’t really matter in the long run. Don’t judge others by their clothes, money or popularity, and don’t hold yourself to the same standards. Choose to care more about what God thinks than what others think.

Typical Teen Tara (17 to 24 points)
Most teens struggle with the urge to be popular. You’re aware that this approach to life can be shallow if you’re not careful. Caring about others’ opinions isn’t always bad, and sometimes you need the affirmation of others. Instead of focusing attention on your appearance and the apparent popularity of others, seek to develop godly character and encourage the same in your friends.

Blind-to-Coolness Brandi (10 to 16 points)
You’re oblivious to the popularity game most of your peers play. This is only a good thing if you’re focused on the right thing: God’s standard. Examine where you’re at with self-image. If you’ve just reached a point where you’ve decided to drop out of the “cool game” because you’re losing, that isn’t any better than playing. Be sure your attitude toward yourself and others reflects how God sees people.


This article appeared in Brio magazine in November 2005. Copyright © 2005 Rebecca Mayer. All rights reserved. International copyright secured.

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