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Naughty Or Nice?


1. One of your friends is home from school with mono. You
a. write her a note for each day she misses to tell her about school and drop them by her house along with her homework assignments.
b. find someone else to sit by in study hall. You’ve been eyeing her crush, and now that she’s not there, you might have a better chance.
c. call her to see when she’s coming back, but you have no desire to visit because of the germs in the air.

2. You’re sitting in study hall with one of your basketball buddies. She asks you if your best friend has a crush on the guy she’s interested in. What do you tell her?
a. You tell her to ask your friend herself. The way you said it sort of gives away the answer, but hey, you didn’t say it.
b. Nothing. It’s really none of her business.
c. You confirm her suspicions and add that she doesn’t need to worry. Your friend doesn’t really stand a chance.

Pizza Barn 3. Jason, the lead actor in the school play, just got a job working at The Pizza Barn in the mall. Your friend got a nonspeaking role in the play, and she’s totally smitten by Jason. You and your friend stop at the Pizza Barn during your Saturday shopping trip. You
a. loudly remark, “I can’t believe you’re hungry after eating that giant blizzard from Dairy Queen. You’re such a bottomless pit.”
b. order your pizza.
c. start talking about your friend’s amazing painting at the fall art show in hopes that a sensitive, artsy guy like Jason will pick up on the hint and join the conversation.

4. You and your friends love using three-way calling. It’s because you
a. love to pull a mean-spirited stunt. Your friend remains silent while you ask an unknowing mutual friend to dish out secrets she’d never tell the other friend.
b. can talk to more people at once. It’s like hanging out without going out.
c. can have a friend talk to your crush while you listen.

teen girl5. The big New Year’s Eve party is coming up, and you and your friends decide to try a new look. Your friend chooses a striped tunic reminiscent of the ‘80s and a big faux pearl necklace. You
a. hate it but try to soften your comments and say, “Well, it’s different. I don’t know if it’s a look you could keep up every day.”
b. tell her she’s not cool enough to pull off a look that funky.
c. hate it but don’t say anything.

6. During history class, your teacher asks you to split up into groups for your semester project. The groups can only have four people. Who is in your group?
a. You, your crush and his two friends (one of whom your best friend has a crush on). Your friend will just have to find her own group. This time it’s you and the guys.
b. You ask the teacher if you can have five in your group so your best friend can join you and the guys. After all, there is an odd number of students in your class.
c. You immediately join the group of three guys, hoping to be the only girl. But then, your best friend manages to get herself invited. You don’t protest, but you aren’t exactly excited by her presence.

7. You and your best girlfriend are hanging out with some older girls on Friday night. You want to impress them so when they suggest you attend the late movie, you’re totally up for hanging with the big girls. Your friend has an early curfew, though. You
a. convince her to break curfew and attend the movie with you.
b. ditch her. Too bad there’s not enough room on the popularity train for her, too.
c. ask the older girls if they can think of something to do that won’t go past 10 p.m.

8. Your best friend didn’t show up at your last basketball game of the season. You find out that she went to her crush’s football game instead. You’re bummed! What do you do?
a. Quit speaking to her. You’ll talk to her again in a few weeks, once she’s figured out why you’re mad.
b. Confront her and tell her how much it would have meant to you had she come to your game.
c. Accidentally forget to attend her art show opening.

What’s Your Score?
Tally how many points you received for each answer.
1) a = 3, b = 1, c = 2
2) a = 2, b = 3, c = 1
3) a = 1, b = 2, c = 3
4) a = 1, b = 3, c = 2
5) a = 3, b = 1, c = 2
6) a = 1, b = 3, c = 2
7) a = 2, b = 1, c = 3
8) a = 1, b = 3, c = 2

Nice Friend
(20 to 24 points)

Every girl needs a friend like you. Keep loving your friends. Though no one is perfect, aim for true friendship. John 15:13 says, “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.” Be challenged by the depth of love and sacrifice that God holds you to, and be encouraged that God will grant you the strength to continue to be the best friend you can be.

Neutral Friend
(14 to 19 points)

You’re not necessarily eligible for an award, but you’re also not the worst friend in the world. Seek to love tirelessly in difficult situations instead of putting in minimum effort when times get tough. Pray that God will give you the capability to truly live Proverbs 17:17: “A friend loves at all times.”

Naughty Friend
(8 to 13 points)

“Friend” may not be the best description of your peer relationships. Rethink the reason why you treat your friends the way you do. Pray for selflessness in your relationships and look for ways to put your friends first. Also, realize that by not being a true friend to others, you risk losing the friendship of those who want to be your true friends. Proverbs 18:24 says, “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”


This article appeared in Brio magazine in December 2005. Copyright © 2005 Rebecca Mayer. All rights reserved. International copyright secured.

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